Couples Therapy
When our relationship is stuck in a rut, it can bring down every other area of life, and be a significant source of stress. If we're having a lot of conflict, or lack of connection, we can easily end up in a very dissatisfied place with no idea what to do. When a couple is at this type of place, Couples Therapy can be very helpful. When we're "in it," it can be almost impossible to find our way out, but having a couples therapist can help.
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This process is not easy, but I can help you down the path of getting your relationship back on track by learning new skills and ways of being with each other that instills more connection, empathy, understanding, and closeness. Fortunately getting to this place also buffers against conflict, miscommunication, and not seeing eye-to-eye. This type of work will give you a more solid foundation for the future that you can continue to build off of, as well as creates more individual growth for both you and your partner.
I am a Developmental Model Couples Therapist and am also trained in Gottman Method Couples Therapy, one of the most widely researched approaches to Couples Therapy. My priority is to create a space where both partners can feel comfortable to share their feelings and thoughts with each other, and work through issues instead of getting stuck on them. The couples I work with can learn how to communicate in different ways so that both partners can actually feel heard, and feel more confident that they have a teammate.
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Through this work, you will be able to build more connection and intimacy, while reducing volatility and distance. You can work to become better for each other, to create a relationship that can stand the test of time.
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Click below to read the introductory document I send to couples before the intake session:
How to Get the Most Out of Couples Therapy
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* The current rate for Couples Therapy is $180 per 50-minute session after the 75-minute intake session at $270. I also offer 75-minute sessions at $270 and 100-minute sessions at $360 after the intake session if you prefer. Oftentimes couples who can't come more frequently will choose longer sessions.
The Issues
Common issues that couples come to Couples Therapy for:
The Benefits
How I can help your relationship and the benefits of Couples Therapy:
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Fighting often and explosively
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Avoiding conflict & sweeping it under the rug
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Lack of emotional connection
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Feeling distant & disconnected
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Lack of physical & sexual connection
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Feeling like roommates or business partners
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Affairs, infidelity, cheating
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Trust issues
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Feeling stuck on certain disagreements
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Premarital Counseling
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Teaching you different ways of communicating
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Sharing feedback on your dynamic with each other, and your role in the relationship
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Addressing ways that each partner can be more of a teammate
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Becoming more connected and less distant
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Creating a more fulfilling intimate and sex life
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Help you heal from an affair
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Being able to really hear your partner, even if you have a different perspective
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Feel more understood and accepted by your partner, and of your partner
Couples Therapy Structure
The beginning of Couples Therapy has a particular and important structure, which starts with the 75-minute intake session. In this first session, I will start to get to know each of you and your relationship, what issues you're having, what brought you together, and what you're looking to get out of this work. After this session, I'll have one individual session with each of you. In this session I'll get to know you better, how you see things, what your childhood was like, previous relationships, and other areas of your life. ​
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After the intake and individual sessions I'll provide you with a couple questionnaires to fill out separately so that I have a solid understanding of you & your relationship. We'll then meet for our second conjoined session where we'll go over feedback from the initial sessions & questionnaires, and collaboratively create a plan for treatment - what areas of the relationship need to be worked on.
Therapy will then continue at a frequency that works for you and makes sense - some couples will need weekly sessions, while others can continue on a bi-weekly basis. If you can only make tri-weekly or monthly sessions work at the beginning, I strongly recommend longer sessions.
There are some couples that can benefit from tri-weekly or monthly 50-minute sessions to start, but this is not the norm; usually if a couple is starting Couples Therapy, there's a need for more frequent and/or longer sessions.
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* The rate for Couples Therapy is $180 per 50-minutes, $270 per 75-minutes, and $360 per 100-minutes.